THE BRAT STOPS HERE!

Welcome to the BRAT STOPS HERE! Site

Yes! In 5 weeks you can put a stop to tantrums, arguing, and bad behavior for ages 6-12.

As former Chief Psychologist for a large urban child guidance clinic and Director of a suburban practice group, every day for years I have been dismayed by the number of children I see in my office who are surly, demanding, out of control, and simply obnoxious. Their parents come to see me because they don’t know what to do. They complain, “I just can’t take it anymore! I have tried everything. Isn’t there anything I can do to stop it!”

Unruly, smart-alecky children are not what parents ever dream of when they start a family. But as time goes by and parents struggle without success through a series of trial-and-error efforts to get rid of bad behavior, they become worn out and hopeless. Sadly many of them ultimately give in and give up in utter defeat.

When parents’ dreams of a calm, loving, and fun family seems out of reach, they don’t know where to turn. Advice from other family members and friends has not helped. Piles of parenting magazines and books may have been of little use as well. Bookstore shelves are overflowing with as many parenting guides as there are diet books. Undoubtedly there are some valuable lessons and useful ideas in these books, but I find that too many of them complicate the matter by searching for some deep reason why this bad behavior exists. In my view, when it comes to raising kids, the hunt for deep-seated underlying causes is generally a waste of time. The source of bad behavior is rarely a mystery—that’s the first piece of good news—because it’s nearly always a mix of a child’s difficult temperament and misguided parenting methods. The second piece of good news is that the fix is no longer a mystery either.

In these pages we will quickly get right down to the specific Dos and Don’ts of my program. You will not need to plow through hundreds of dry child psychology pages that go into excruciating detail to explain why your child doesn’t behave. You will be provided with real-world examples drawn from my experiences with families (with names and identifying information have changed to protect their privacy), and a few words about difficult temperaments. Then you will be instructed step-by-step to create a personalized behavior plan for you, your child, and your family that you will put into effect in no time at all. It will be the end of nagging, arguing, reminding, lecturing, threatening, fighting, yelling, or physical punishment. Besides, these responses to misbehavior are ineffective and most of the time they only serve to make matters worse.

The Brat Stops Here! The Dr. J. Way allows you to do more than guide your child to better behavior. It can also increase your child’s patience, willingness to compromise, self-control, acceptance of responsibility, and self-esteem, all of which are essential for healthy development. As parents your job is to prepare your child to become a responsible adult. This book can help you do just that. No matter how much of a handful your child has been, and no matter how skeptical you are about making changes the one thing I know for sure is that if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you will continue to get the same results—negative behavior from your child.

Just think. In only a few weeks your family could be living much more happily in a battle-free zone. What a pleasure to rediscover the joy in parenting when play, laughter, sharing, and loving moments with your child overshadow disagreements and upsets. You have little to lose and everything to gain. This is a proven parenting plan that really works.

Best Regards, Dr. Mary-Elaine Jacobsen